Love- Four simple alphabets that are strung together to create one of
the most complex yet beautiful emotions experienced towards other humans,
animals and one’s self.
However, love is more than just these
emotions but it is a magical feeling wherein the sight/thoughts of the person
(he/she) will/can just about bring about butterflies to your stomach!
Love is when you can see beyond the
imperfections of a person and is an intense feeling that is a variety of
different feelings, attitudes and states that range from interpersonal
affection to pleasure.
It extends to emotions such as strong
attraction and personal attachment; but it can also be a virtue representing
compassion, human kindness and affection- “the unselfish loyal
and benevolent concern for the good of another."
Lasting
Relationships boil down to Kindness & Generosity
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is
essential to your own.
― Robert A. Heinlein
Love is what people think they do-
“they love the person” but in actuality they are just “THOUGHTS”, which cluster
the mind.
Real love is a POWERFUL FEELING WHICH is mind-altering and is like a drug that NO-ONE is safe from becoming wildly addicted to, it could be felt in a heartbeat, in an instance and drive people to do irrational, crazy and sometimes even destructive things!
Real love is a POWERFUL FEELING WHICH is mind-altering and is like a drug that NO-ONE is safe from becoming wildly addicted to, it could be felt in a heartbeat, in an instance and drive people to do irrational, crazy and sometimes even destructive things!
It is so much more than all of this: its
respect, cohesive lifestyles, and even timing. However, love is so much more.
It's the ‘chemistry’, which makes love so powerful. Sexual attraction, which is
often confused for love is what people are constantly looking for just to feel
elated.
For years, love has been a central theme in
movies; so whether your single, in a new relationship, something in between,
just married, there’s always something to watch!
For example some movies strongly represent a particular aspect:
·
Walk of Shame – Elizabeth
Banks,
·
Anne
Hathaway's version -If You're Taking a Break From Dating: Becoming Jane,
·
If Your Going on a Lot of First
Dates-50 First Dates,
·
If your trying Online Dating –
You’ve Got Mail
Whenever we feel a
little bit happy, that instance our brain releases a “feel-good-hormone";
actually a transmitter known as dopamine, which is, induces a buzz like sensation.
Who wouldn't like to feel that euphoric buzz again?
However, both people have to want the same
thing and respect is so important throughout. You can’t be with a person who is
mean to you or controlling or doesn't even want the same things as you in life.
That is just attraction and chemistry.
Shifting our thinking is in this manner is
very important and it makes love a safe place which is very empowering.
Moreover, we begin to love ourselves in a way where nothing in this world and
no one can control us! Not even a feeling!
Only we are in charge of our feelings and
ourselves and that's far more dope than ethereal love can ever be!
Love can be of different types (impersonal
and interpersonal) and is the foundation of the movie industry in every
country.
Impersonal love is the love for an object, goal or even principle that
is greatly committed to.
Volunteer and compassionate outreach (NGO type activities) love the work/causes they are working towards because of altruism. Love and impersonal love coupled with altruism and strong political and spiritual connections.
Volunteer and compassionate outreach (NGO type activities) love the work/causes they are working towards because of altruism. Love and impersonal love coupled with altruism and strong political and spiritual connections.
If people invest all their “love” on themselves
and sexual passion it leads to a mental disorder, which can even be
characterised by an obsession or even lead to preference for unusual sexual
acts such as exhibitionism, sadomasochism and pedophilia.
Interpersonal love is the love that is held between two humans and has
far more potent sentiment than ‘mere’ liking. Interpersonal love is very easy
to identify with ‘interpersonal relationships’.
Unrequited love is very common and refers to
feelings of love which are not reciprocated – this can happen between friends,
family, couples, people of higher authority, etc.
There are many psychological disorders
related to love – erotomania being one of the main ones; others being obsessive
compulsive disorder, it is like you have a psychosocial disorder.
From euphoria to depression, mood
swings to obsessive compulsive checking for texts and the mind scrambling with
thoughts, the drop down low when your ‘love interest’ hasn't called in two
minutes! Its crazy what love can do to you!
“Love is always NEW!
Regardless of whether we love once, twice, or a dozen times in our life,
we always face a brand-new situation. Love can consign us to hell or to
paradise, but it always takes us somewhere.
We simply have to accept it, because it is what nourishes our existence.
If we reject it, we die of hunger, because we lack the courage to reach out a
hand and pluck the fruit from the branches of the tree of life. We have to
take love where we find it, even if it means hours, days, weeks of
disappointment and sadness. The moment we begin to seek love, love begins to
seek us. And to save us.”
In love, no one can harm anyone else; we are each of us responsible for
our own feelings and cannot blame someone else for what we feel. It hurts
when I lost each of the various men I fell in love with.
Now, though, I am convinced that no one loses anyone, because no one
owns anyone. That is the true experience of freedom: having the most
important thing in the world without owning it.
Paulo Coelho, Eleven
Minutes (2003)
There are also biological modes of sex and view love as a
“mammalian dive” similar to that as hunger and thirst.
Helen E. Fisher, an American human behaviour researcher, self-help
author and anthropologist is a Senior Research Fellow at the Kinsley Institute Indiana
Instutute- Indiana and is also a member of the Center For Human
Evolutionary Studies in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University.
A leading expert on love and attraction, she claimed that there was one
thing that remained common amongst humans and that was their reproductive
organs.
She is also one of the main speakers at the 2006 & 2008 TED
conferences. She had appeared in a documentary in 2014 that was heart-breaking
and dealt with loneliness, titled ‘Sleeplessness in New York’
The film explored the difficult path out of self-destructive, obsessive behaviour,
toward a new self, "Sleepless in New York" was promoted as "a
film for those in love, out of love or looking for love.
Love has been the subject of many books across
time and they have been heart wrenching love stories that are perfect to cozy
up to and enjoy the night or they can be heart wrenching love stories that may
even bring you to tears to a romance having a far more sinful side to it.
The Fault in Our Stars – John Green
Fifty Shades of Grey – E.L. James
The Notebook – Nicholas Sparks
Romeo and Juliet – William Shakespeare
A Walk to Remember – Nicholas Sparks
Love in the Time of Cholera – Columbian author-Gabriel García Márquez Spanish: El amor en los tiempos del cólera)
Darker by EL James
The Fault in Our Stars – John Green
Fifty Shades of Grey – E.L. James
The Notebook – Nicholas Sparks
Romeo and Juliet – William Shakespeare
A Walk to Remember – Nicholas Sparks
Love in the Time of Cholera – Columbian author-Gabriel García Márquez Spanish: El amor en los tiempos del cólera)
Darker by EL James
( (And many more)
- Love is definitely good for the heart AND even for your mood but you know what, it’s your BRAIN where the REAL DRAMA actually plays out and sometimes it’s not always “so good”!
Your brain chemistry goes HAYWIRE
– throwing signals – neurotransmitters in all different directions, making it
go off balance.
First of all, more ‘dopamine’ is released which is a very important hormone in the pleasure and rewards systems of the bring; then the serotonin level decreases – which is a neurotransmitter that is directly related to sleep, mood and appetite.
First of all, more ‘dopamine’ is released which is a very important hormone in the pleasure and rewards systems of the bring; then the serotonin level decreases – which is a neurotransmitter that is directly related to sleep, mood and appetite.
All the physical, bodily changes
are all related to the hormonal changes. The damp palms you may get, shortness
of breath, light-headedness are all related to the fact that your body is
increasing the release of the hormone adrenalin.
However there are many questions
regarding love:
What is love, attachment and sexual gratification? What do men want and
what do women want and what is acceptable across the world cultures?
Yes, men and women have their own
agendas and while men are more attracted to beauty; women are attracted more to
success. Of course there has to be a meeting of the mind but love is as complex
and as simple as we make it.
As said by Orson Welles- an American actor, director, writer, and
producer who worked in theatre, radio, and film so profoundly:
”We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and
friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.
If you want a
happy ending, that depends, of course, on where you stop your story.
Create your own
visual style... let it be unique for yourself and yet identifiable for others.”
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